TMI

1. Do you have “your” side of the bed? Which side? Yea I like to sleep near the door or in the middle of the bed lol if babe is there I’m usually almost on the floor.

2. How old is your pillow and what condition is it in? I’ve had my body pillow since college its comfy but I have other pillows that I sleep on

3. What is your favorite position to sleep in? On my stomach

4. How often do you change your sheets? Every other week

5. What helps you fall asleep when insomnia strikes? Watching something boring on TV

6. Does sex make you sleepy or energized? Depends on what kind of sex lol

7. What is the minimum amount of sleep that you need to be functional the next day. I’d have to say like 7 hours or more

Bonus (as in optional):Describe your most vivid dream. Most of my dreams are vivid or strange sad to say babe always asks me how I remember every detail…I’m not sure

1. Family is ___important to me_____________.
2. Friends are __like sisters to me____________.
3. Exes are good _for nothing______________.
4. Strangers __are strangers_________________.
5. Relationships ___are great_________ when __both people put in work_______.

Bonus: Tell us about your first love: He went to my church and we dated off and on until my freshmen year in college. He has since become like a brother to me and is expecting his first child next year and I’ve informed him I’m gonna be the unofficial godmother LOL

TMI Tuesday

It was brought to my attention that I dont do TMI tuesday anymore and since I am a slacker I decided to do one even though its Wednesday LOL

So here goes……….

1. What is the longest you have been in a monogamous sexual relationship? [For the purpose of this question monogamous is defined as no sexual partners that your significant other does (did) not know about.] I would have to say almost 2 years then we broke up lol

2. If your current relationship would fail, do you have a back-up for physical or emotional comfort? I have friends I mean I dont know if you consider them backups or not but I’m sure I could find one if necessary but this one would be hard to get over

3. Can you be “just friends” with someone when there is an unrequited sexual attraction? Someone told me that they still find me attractive and I said do you say that to your wife LOL so that would mean no if you constantly trying to holla at me then I prob couldn’t be around you

4. In a assumed monogamous sexual relationship have you ever cheated, been cheated upon or been a knowing third party to the infidelity? [For the purpose of this question monogamous is defined as no sexual partners that a significant other does (did) not know about.] I have been cheated upon and sad to say I wish I had done some dirt LOL but i’m too good for that

5. Historically, what has caused the most arguments in your relationships? Me feeling like the guy didn’t like me as much as I liked him but I’m glad to say that’s all changed

Bonus (as in optional):What do you want from a partner in a long term relationship? Communication and Understanding

1. How do you differentiate between love and lust? Lust passes as soon as someone who looks better or seems better comes along which would mean I think Love is the opposite

2. You are happily married, engaged, or committed in a relationship, yet you have a hot sexy dream about someone you have always wanted to do it with. Have you cheated at least in your mind? Heck yea Shemar Moore and Will Smith could have got it last night LOL

3. Do you trust your significant other? It took a LONG time but yes I do

4. How important is your Husband or Wife wearing their Wedding bands? Is it important to you and why? Very important its a symbol to the world that we are committed to one another and the life we want to establish

5. Do you feel that flirting is OK if you are taken? I mean light flirting yes but not all out rubbing up and down on someone lol

Bonus (as in optional):If you were 100% guaranteed not to get caught having a one night stand with someone else, would you? If it were denzel yes then again I’d prob tell babe LOL and be like it means nothing I just wanna see how it is LOL (but he’s prob too old now so i’d have to replace him with Will smith lol)

Grow Up

So I’m tryin to talk to my sister about how serious marriage is. I’ve never been married but I know that once you take that vow before God and others its no longer about you…I mean you have to worry about someone else now for the rest of your life…its not like you can be mad at them then get a divorce.

Her and the fiancee called it off…well she did she didn’t feel like he was listening to what she wanted..she wanted something small he wanted to over do it. I dont think he understood what the grooms job is…you pay for the groomsmen flowers and what not the honeymoon and show up..you do not get to go with her when she tries on wedding dresses you do NOT get to decide the stuff that she wears or doesnt wear LOL….deal with it and move on.

So my sister who is normally very quiet decided that she wanted to tell him what she wanted and she wanted to put her foot down…well he didnt wanna listen and she was like then maybe we need to slow down. I could have told her that…not giving yourself time to get over one person before you commit to another is NOT a good thing. Granted she had been with him before but I told her to give herself space….you cant say one minute that you wanna be with someone forever and then one week later be like no…I mean did you really think about what you were getting into when you told that person yes a week ago..clearly you didnt.

So I pray she is taking the time to really listen to herself and most importantly God. Marriage is serious and I dont want any of my sisters to end up in a divorce situation…that is def not cool. I dont plan on getting divorced either. I know marriage is a 24/7…365 job..one that you cant get a vacation from…you gotta put in work to make it work…they make you mad but you cant just run away you gotta stick it out…you made a committment….I wish some folks would understand that.

Change is Strange

So lately I’ve been getting this feeling that I’m not living up to my full potential…be it not buckling down and finishing school, spiritually, financially and physically.

So yesterday I took a good long look at myself and what I’ve been doing and decided that I’m am destined for greatness but I need to stop acting like I have no sense. I cant think that things will just come to me…I gotta step my game up.

So I decided along with G to be celibate. Eeekkkk LOL. He was like are you sure, I’m like yea I think we need to do this….together in fact. It will make us stronger, bring us closer and see what else we can learn about one another while we go through this process…I didn’t force it on him, he in fact decided that not even self pleasure is allowed…WOW dude are you sure LOL

So one day down over 400 left…we’re doing it for a year.

Starting the Fat Smash Diet too….I’ve heard lots of good things about it and I figured it’s easy to follow a plan instead of trying to create my own cause that aint working…..

Sooo here goes…..I’ll keep ya posted

I am so ready for the weekend I have no idea what Im gonna do with myself all day at work. Talking to G right now on the phone he doesn’t have to be to work till 5:30p but he just got off at 5am so he should be sleep right now but he doesn’t like going to sleep right away for fear of sleeping all day LOL…boooo please I would be knocked out right now…but not his tail the first place he hits up when he gets off is Walmart. I promise he needs to buy stock in it lol that’s how much he stays in that joint.

Instead of him coming up here this weekend I’m going down there, this way I get to see the fam, him and help lil sis start looking for dresses. I also need to head to the computer store to get a new battery for my laptop since the freakin thing wont hold a charge anymore…you know you need a new battery when you try to hold the cord a certain way to charge the battery LOL lets just say its played out so much that my arm dont even wanna try to figure out what position i need to hold it in for the comp to turn on.

Next weekend I’m going to a crabfeast emmmm emmm. I’m excited, going with my linesister, dont know yet if the other one is coming or not its her bday weekend so not sure what her boo has planned and this aint the boo she was about to be married to. Apparently this is some new dude and I dont like him already but apparently she likes it so whatever…..

Made dinner last night and gotta go to the store tomorrow after work to get some groceries so that I can cook every day next week….cant buy lunch and crap all the dang on time….momma taught me how to boil water so I need to get with it.

Life..

I know its been a while but what can I saw blogging began to become a task rather than something I wanted to do so I slacked off on writing and even on reading those that I had to come to enjoy reading (or being nosey whatever you like to call it lol)

So lets see if I can get back in the swing of things.

Work is..work LOL same ole same ole

School will start in a lil over a month and I must say that I’m ready to get it on and poppin so that I can hurry up and finish….dragging it out is not doing anything but causing me distress and anger at the thought of how i could be finished.

Relationship is good..better than it was when we began…we’re talking more, I mean really talking and I like that.

Folks are funny but hey that’s the norm these days…always worried about what Im doing or the next person how about you worry about yourself

Fam is good….the youngest nephew will be one in a week…I cant believe time flew by that fast…lil sis is getting married and I’m SOOOO excited I am so thankful she has found someone to love and be with for the rest of her life….

So all in all things are pretty good

Update

Ok its been a while who knows if folks still come by but I’ve been slacking a lot more than ususal.

Writing is theraputic for me and I haven’t been doing any lately which can tell ya that I’ve been feeling some sort a way about life lately.

School starts in two months and I actually want it to start..I’m taking for class..one is online so that should be interesting. When you gotta pay for it yourself you aint necessarily in a rush and when you dont do well in a class you wanna make sure you have the time to focus so you can do your best..which is where I’m at. I didn’t do well in one class the previous semester so I’m taking it over and Im so mad at myself cause I wasted money…granted he could have gave me some extra to do but I guess he didn’t feel like he should have…boo to him…and the sucky part is this same teacher is teaching another class im taking this semester hopefully he doesn’t remember me LOL

Good thing is my classes are only tues and wed so if i decide to go out of town I’ll still be fine to do that, shouldn’t interrupt any of my vacation plans if I make any and as of right now I dont have any LOL

G is fine…I made a BIG mistake and almost damaged our relationship totally and I’m so happy that we both worked through it…and no i didn’t cheat lol

Work is good….well relatively good….

All this freaking rain is killin me though

I suck…

yes I know. I haven’t been by blogs I’m such a slacker and everytime I mean to stop by I either remember I have something i need to watch or some actual work to do LOL

I try to update each week but then I get sidetracked…great

Anywho things are going well. Looking forward to registering for class then found out I need to pay a parking ticket that I got on campus…great so I have to do that before I can take my summer class. It sucks cause they are only offering one class that I wanna take during the summer which means that I’m gonna have to buckle down in the fall and take like 4 classes….errrrr

About this heatwave that came out of nowhere I thought it was suppose to be spring not the middle of hell season lol. One day it was all nice and breezy the next its so hot I had to change three times (hey I tend to sweat and I dont like being funky lol) and then the rain comes…what kind of nonsense is that. This the kind of weather that gets ya sick.

G is fine. We’re progressing along nicely. I tell ya that man has taught me alot about patience in the last almost 5 months. It insane cause even my mom saw it she was like calm down dont be so quick to jump and fuss…she’s right the devil knows my weakness and he steps on it lol…but all in all G is a good guy. I’ve stopped giving him the side eye all the time, although I do keep my eyes open..I dont think thats the same as the side eye lol

My mom loves him, my sisters are already callin him their brother and of course my booskies love playing with him…he always puts the baby booski to sleep when he visits and fat fat who is losing all his fat lol loves chasing G around the house.

Lets hope I can keep updating once a week LOL

Catchup

Texas was great…..other than the light drizzle that I was NOT prepared for the visit went rather well. We hung out Fri night and had a blast and then got up Sat went to Wally World (his fav place) cause I was NOT prepared for some other things that decided to arrive that weekend lol

Then it was off to Old Navy to get a hoody since I wasn’t prepared to walk around the park freezing…good thing I had some jeans packed or I would have been really SOL. Before the park it was the mall though and I love how they had this huge pair of boots sitting in front of the mall too cool lol

Six Flags was cool, until I noticed that my camera was not working. Well it was taking pics but the LCD was jacked up so I had to call today to find out what I need to do to send it to Sony to get it fixed. So anywho I was snappin pics and hopping they came out and they did…if you are my friend on facebook you can view them there

He comes home on Fri I have to head to Norfolk to pick him up, then we’re going to a bday party then to the beach for the rest of the weekend pending nice weather. I can honestly say that this whole experience has been a REAL learning one. After coming off with what happened with Music I have to learn to trust G totally and that is HARD. I can’t assume he’s doing wrong all the time, I have to know and feel that he’s different but I promise sometimes he does stuff and I’m like hmmmm then I have to check myself cause if not I’ll turn into my FBI mode lol and that is not cool so he’s teaching me to trust him even farther than I can see him lol

He makes me smile and laugh and I love that about him. I dont have to worry that he cares for me, he will tell me over and over again. Loves to hold my hand, includes me in his future plans and even fusses at me for speaking in I form lol meaning I will say well in 2 years I want to blah blah and he’ll be like you mean we lol and I’m like what lol. It’s nice to have someone who puts more effort into me than I do him. My daddy always said find a man that loves you a lil more than you love him….men take longer to admit they love you and when they do you know its real.

This weekend hopefully it will be nice. He has to look for an apt in Va Beach since his old lease is up with his roomie so I’m gonna help him do that and between all that we’re going to hang out with my fam and hang out at the beach, which should be nice

Since I didn’t get to hang out at the beach last weekend maybe this weekend will be diff. Sidenote I saw some cute bathing suits at walmart I need to go back and check out. I was going to get one I saw at GAP until I saw that top and bottom were $36 a piece…UMMMM NO lol I’ve gotten like 5 bathing suits for that price at Tar’get on the clearance rack thanks lol

Friday Thoughts

Glad that I get off early

Wondering how come I can’t write a real post only randomness

Going to see Gerald (yes that’s his name since someone hint hint lol said I use initials too much lol) in Texas for the weekend

You guys are right thinking im going to mess this up will mess it up

He’s a wonderful person and I need to just live…which I think I can do but then I start thinking lol

I have a friend who I think makes up lies to get attention…..strange but true I’m starting to look at her diff.

Sad cause I feel bad for her but I dont have time for you to be making up lies about your life and telling 5 diff stories…that aint a friendship

Looking forward to spending some time in another city with him and then next week we’re spending the weekend at the beach if the weather is nice and hitting up church with my fam

Ahhh the joys of getting off early and buyin a new book lol