I can be know to be too nice to folks. It takes me a minute for me to put into action my dislike for someone because I try to give them the benefit of the doubt. Well as I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized that I can’t be like that. Everyone doesn’t deserve a second chance and its ok to think that someone isn’t good enough for you. I mean you can’t please everyone (or date everyone).
While recently experimenting with online dating I met a nice younger guy who had certain things about him that annoyed me. I wont go too much into detail but one of them was the fact that his breath stank. I finally got up the nerve to tell him that I couldnt’ see us being anything more than friends and he says ok that’s all i wanted anyway. I’m thinking uhhh so why blow up my phone wanting to see me, text me talkin about when can you see me. Where they do that at…apparently in your world of make believe cause you dont know the difference between friends and wanna be more than friends. I decided to leave it alone and since I’m not interested in making any more guy friends I chalked it up to a lesson learned and labeled him as DNA LOL
So I’m pretty sure I’ve mentioned before that my little sister is getting married. The middle one not the youngest one. I pray she knows I love her and that I am happy for her but chic calls me like 2 times a day LOL Sometimes I answer normally other times I tell her she’s reached Dominos Pizza and we are closed LOL I’m happy she has found someone to spend the rest of her life with and they are def made for one another, but GEEZ LE WESE (I’m sure I prob spelled that wrong..that’s how fried my brain is). From here on out it’s gonna get busier, I already sense it. I was suppose to stay in the area this weekend but have to head home for big sister/maid of honor duties…good thing one of my friends is going down as well cause I’m riding with her. Goldie (my car) needs some work done, since she failed inspection (i think she did it on purpose just so she could get new shoes..but i digress). So at any rate she will be sitting until the end of the month until every thing on her is brought up to par. I’ve been slacking on posting and thought that since I downloaded the wordpress app on my mini that I would post more, when in fact I’ve found myself reading more LOL…lets hope I post more…writing is therapy 🙂
So as stated in previous posts, I’ve decided that its time for me to re-enter the dating world. Now for someone who only goes to work, maybe the gym and travels every chance she gets to visit her babies (niece and nephews)….dating can be tricky thing.
A guy friend of mine (who i actualy met when I was on BP in college and have only met twince but we talk every day LOL) told me to check out POF (plently of fish). I said ok what the heck, I filled out the profile back in November and since then have hidden and unhidden my profile so many times i stopped counting. However, I decided that since I’m not helping myself by not going out…then I need to make a better effort on putting myself out there…dating wise. So unhide again, and crossing my fingers I decided to dive back in. Now since November I’ve meet some ok guys and I’ve met some weirdos. Insert Veggie boy….that part didn’t bother me, what bothered me was him scheduling a date…then not texting till 4pm the day of the date to say we were gonna reschedule due to a hangover…ummm dont do that…earlier is always better…so he was already on thin ice..then his convo got weird he was acting like we were already together…and requesting pics that I had posted to FB..umm for what boo…look at that pic and be satisfied LOL…then I decided to follow him on IG…wrong…he dressed like someones Dad…i’m not saying i dress like a fashion model but I can’t do the whole old man button down shirts. I need you to have at least 2 pairs of sneakers….he didn’t own even that(found that out when i suggested we meet up to bowl) Yea so he fell off, which was kinda sad cause he was cool to talk to on the phone.
Then there are the random guys who message me, asking why are you up here..what are you looking for…umm read my profile. I generally ignore those ones and the ones that have so much slang in them i wish the site had a translate button LOL
At any rate, if he aint got what im looking for…there is no harm in telling him i’m not interested. Aint nobody got time for that….lol
“Tis better to have loved and lost, Than never to have loved at all.” ― Alfred Tennyson, In Memoriam
Happy Valentines Day people!! If no one has told you today that they love you….I DO!! Stopping by my random piece of the internet world is much appreciated 🙂
I’ve always been resilent when it comes to love. I get knocked down, kicked in the chest and my baby toe gets stepped on but I always get back up ready to love again. I thank God for healing my heart and keeping me sane. I thank my mommie for always being around to listen about the good and the bad of my various relationships.
I’m more thankful now more than ever that I’ve learned to love ME. I can be stubborn, selfish, loud, corny, inconsistent and random at times but if I can’t love me then how is someone else gonna love me?
My youngest sister is going thru a time now since my middle sister is getting married. She feels like she will never get married due to her having so many kids. I pray that God works on her. Helps her to understand that what you put out in the atmosphere is what you get back. You can’t think you’re never gonna be good enough…cause you wont ever be good enough if you keep thinking that way. No one wants to be with someone who doesn’t even like themselves.
SO today on this national day of love…I’m thankful for the love that I’ve learned to express more to myself and to those I hold close. Shoutout to my future hubby whereever you are…I’m learning, growing and praying that you are doing the same..cause when God finally introduces us…its on and POPPIN HAHAHA
So while dating, I’ve come across some weird ones and some pretty decent ones. I guess I’ve just gotten picky lately which could be a good thing but can lead to boredom occasionally lol
While going thru this process of meeting new people I’ve come across one person who kinds popped back up. We will call him college crush. Now college crush is hilarious he makes me laugh and is just as silly if not sillier than me. However, during the course of us getting back in touch he has been married, divorced and has 5 kids. Uh yea 5 lol all by his wife and they are beautiful children but of course like my dad says you gotta think about that future aspect when you’re dealing with someone who has children.
Freshmen year after a random on campus party my girlfriends and I ran into this group of guys. One of them went to school with us but the others were his cousins, we ended up hanging weekends after that and staying up all night laughing and joking. Crush and I talked every day I thought things were awesome….until he disappeared. First time away from home, in a new environment and I experience my first experience with love confusion lol what did I do what happened all that.
I of course got over it, moved on and lived life. Well up he pops a few years ago when I dated ex and I told him I was involved. Up he pops again and now I’m single and so is he. He wants to get to know one another again, see where it could lead. He’s apologized and explained more than once about what occurred all those years ago and I’ve forgiven him. He’s a different person, more involved in church and is on the minister track. I am in the church, not like I should but I’m wondering when the time comes will I be really ready to date someone who wants to have their own church.
I guess only time will tell….
Yea I know…I’m late but better late than never right LOL
Hope your new year has been off to a great start. Mine has. I’ve come into a sense of understanding and I kinda feel like I’ve grown up in the last few months since I’ve turned 30. I guess getting older and reflecting does that to you 🙂
At any rate, I’m ready for what 2013 has in store. I recently got back into dating and that has def been an experience LOL From the 25 year old with the bad breath to the hot firefighter, its been an adventure. I’m def gonna be blogging about it so stay tuned 🙂